Tuesday, October 6, 2020

An Open Letter To Those Who Wish Me Ill

I’d be naive to think that everyone who follows my life on this blog or on other social media platforms wish me nothing but the best. I’m well aware that many read solely to watch me crash and burn. Being aware of it and having it shoved in your face are two different things though. 

Earlier today I received a wrong number text from someone I know. While I could screen shot it and blast it here, I’m not that type of person and will keep the involved parties anonymous. They know who they are. Anyway... person A saw a post I put on FB of a new arrival at the farm and took the time out of their day to screenshot it and send it to person B. Person B then took the time to find a text I had sent them about this new addition, highlight a comment I wrote and text it with a snarky comment. Unfortunately for them, they sent it to me instead of to person A. I called them out on it and it stopped there on my end. Who knows what fun they had once the message was re sent to the intended recipient. I’m sure it was a barrel of laughs. 

Here’s the thing. I honestly don’t give a rats ass what anyone outside of my husband and my trainer think when it comes to anything horse related. Certainly not some strangers I met through a blog and whose only knowledge of me is what I choose to share on various social media platforms. And especially not those who wish me ill, want to watch me crash and burn and who have nothing productive to offer. Nobody outside of Dusty knows me entirely and nobody knows what I’ve been going through these past few months which led to a decision that apparently raised some eyebrows. A decision that effects precisely nobody outside of my immediate household. And perhaps my trainer. 

I invite everyone to follow the parts of my life I choose to be public about.  The small group who are my cheerleaders. The slightly larger group who are my vocal haters. The silent majority who follow solely to see me fail hoping my next post will prove them right and show how much of an idiot I am. Please follow along. I’m sure I’ll give each group something to hang their hat on. Understand this though: I live my life for myself, not to please you or get your approval.

Everyone gets one ride here. One moment to shine and maybe I have a different perspective since I work with the elderly all day, but damn folks. Time is short. It goes by so damn fast. Spend less of it being mean to others and more of it being kind. You’ll enjoy life way more that way. 

I’m done with this topic now and moving on. I’ve dedicated all the energy I care to on this. I’m going to return to my love/hate relationship with Eeyore, who by the way is back to jumping finally, and start my new adoration of Hamilton, the 4 year old emaciated OTTB who arrived at my farm at 6 am Monday morning after an arduous 17 hours in a trailer and has been the kindest, most gentlemanly creature I’ve ever had the pleasure of being around. Even the Hubby, who typically only puts up with the horses, has fallen head over heels for the ginormous moose of a baby TB.

More to come in a happier introductory post for the big sweetheart. Until then...please be kind to each other. You honestly don’t know what others are going through and how a single mean or kind word could effect them. 













42 comments:

  1. Im excited to see the new horse! Sounds like a great project to keep you busy and all that rich grass you have will go to someone who needs it.

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    1. At least one of our horses can benefit from the grass without me worrying to death about making them too fat.

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  2. I'm excited about the new horse! I hope people who aren't keep it to themselves, because really they are probably jealous.

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    1. I think what bothered me the most is that I never mind someone messaging me with a question so if someone was questioning my insanity all they had to do was reach out and ask me what on earth I'm thinking. Going behind my back to ask someone else is only to gossip

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  3. Congratulations! How exciting! Please don’t let the bullies win. I stopped blogging years ago because of them, and I regret that I stopped. I enjoy your blog and wish you well, even though I never comment. From Terry

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    1. I don't expect everyone to comment, I follow a lot of blogs I never comment on myself because I don't really have much to say.

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  4. Can't wait to hear about the new guy! Sorry you're dealing with unnecessary drama

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  5. Congratulations!! Sounds like we both had run-ins with betrayal by friends (my post from yesterday read similarly), although yours sounds way worse. I'm sorry that happened and obviously it reflects more on those people than you, but that still really hurts. Best of luck with the new guy, I love the name!

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    1. Yeah, I had just read your post when all this happened. Guess it is going around. I think I'd have been more hurt your way though. This was behind my back not public at least

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  6. I think people are so on edge these days that they are devolving into meanness. Or maybe I am naïve. Life IS short and your choices are no ones business. For the record I saw your post about Hamilton and was both surprised and excited. I knew that there were things I didn't know and I've followed you long enough to know that you make thoughtful choices.
    I don't understand why someone would view this negatively. I would suspect it's jealousy that you can add another horse to your life.
    People who don't like it can fuck off.

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    1. I mean, I was pretty surprised too honestly. I wasn't even looking really. He crossed my path and next thing I knew I was paypalling money over and setting up a shipper. I shouldn't be trusted online

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  7. For whatever it's worth, I think we all have haters (secret or otherwise) who read about our lives just to hopefully watch us crash and burn. On more than one occasion, I've considered locking down my blog as a result. In the end, I decided 'fuck 'em' much like your sentiment in this post.

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    1. Everyone does and I always knew on an abstract level that I did too. Seeing it though - that was a bit bothersome

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  8. Man this is really unfortunate to hear, I'm sorry. I had a similar experience with another blogger (god, I wonder if it was the same one???) being super fake and ridiculous and judgy and mean, it definitely made me tighten up my circle of blogger friends a bit. That's the downside of being public I guess, but I think you're handing it the right way. Haters gonna hate, that's their problem not yours. Congrats on the new horse, can't wait to hear more about him!

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    1. Thanks for reaching out! The nice thing about blogging is that there are a lot of really nice supportive people too so I will just focus on that.

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  9. Wow! I know that feeling MUCH too well. When I bought May, my dad called and screamed at me as we were driving me home. My trainer at the time gave me the best advice, getting a new horse is FUN and EXCITING. Don't let anyone ruin that for you!

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    1. You are right. Getting a new horse is fun and exciting no matter what anyone else thinks

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  10. Ugh, this really sucks. It's just so immature and high school. Don't let it ruin the excitement for you - I've struggled with this a little recently with my new one so I can relate. Block out the negatives and focus on having a great foundation for your relationship going forward!
    (And yay chestnut geldings!)

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    1. Chestnut is apparently my thing. Your new guy is so so cute!! Good luck with him. I hope he is perfect for you

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  11. Happy to hear from you. Sorry about the bullies. I think that covid has brought out the mean in pretty much the world right now. Be happy with your new guy and I'm thrilled to read that Eeyore is jumping again! Anyway, happy to hear from you!!!

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    1. Eeyore is thrilled to be jumping again too!

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  12. Yikes! I will echo everyone else - Sorry you are going through this on top of the rest of 2020! I will say as a comment on something you posted - the silent majority who read and don't comment don't do it in a spiteful way, most are too busy to do more than read, others have phones or computers that don't work with them (or heck! I had so much trouble a couple years ago commenting on Wordpress blogs only.. it was strange but I eventually found a workaround, many have that same problem with bloggers, some are very nice bots just pinging pages lol

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    1. I stopped commenting on others when I switched to blogger because I can't comment on my phone and 95% of the time I'm reading from there. Recently learned I need to download Chrome on my iphone and it should work again. I haven't tried it yet to see if it is true

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    2. I can't comment on ANYTHING BLOGGER on my phone (or ipad). And I read so many blogs on my phone... Chrome doesn't seem to help either but I hope it works for you! I'm sure if I get my blogger profile up and running I could make it work, but it's attached to some old blog from a grad school assignment...

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  13. I am so sorry this was a post you had to write. I have been a neglectful blogger myself, not posting anything all year and now only have a few stolen minutes here and there to read other blogs. It makes me sad to think others have to be so mean, as to me, life is too hard on its own to create more hardships for others. Shame on those bloggers. You've got the right attitude, Sara, and live your life for yourself. And thank you for choosing to share what you do, as it is nice to feel validated and encouraged by another adult amateur as yourself. <3

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    1. I've missed your blog. I hope you are doing well!

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  14. I'm sorry. I might lurk more than normal but I'm always just excited that folks are willing to share their horsey lives here. That's what I love. And what you describe is always a fear of mine, especially being a larger rider.

    Keep being unapologetically you. And screw the haters. You have the stall space. You have the pasture space. I hope that thoroughbred is a puppydog of a horse who treats you well in turn, because I know you'll do well by him. You've never not treated your animals well.

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    1. Its hard to put yourself out there especially if you don't fit a certain mold, but you know what?! Who cares what others think!!

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  15. I'm a silent follower, but also a silent cheering you on and wishing you only the best. I'm sorry there are snarky people in the world. Perhaps they just haven't evolved enough to become the better person they hopefully will become. In the mean time, just keep being you and the horse person you are. Happy Trails

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    1. Thank you for cheering me on. It is nice to know there are supporters of my insanity out there.

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  16. WTF is wrong with people?! I just want to see the new pony! Give him a hug and forget the rest. Sigh…

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    1. I'll get pics up soon. Its been hectic around ehre.

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  17. Oh crap, that's awful! I'm so sorry you had to go through that on top of everything in 2020. I think you're handling it well tho, and I am SO excited to hear about Hamilton (fantastic name!). I'm excited too to hear how you and Eeyore are doing, and that's great to hear that he's back to jumping!

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    1. I love his name. His JC name is History Earned which I also love. Eeyore is doing well and still being very much Eeyore. I've come to terms with the fact that all the training in the world will never change him and I think I'm ok with that.

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  18. I, for one, enjoy your blog and wish you all the best! I also love the name Hamilton (like Eeyore!)and look forward to hearing more about him. How exciting for him and you!

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    1. Hmmm, not sure why my comment got posted as "unknown", but this is Mary Lynne from The Backyard Horse Blog.

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    2. Hamilton is a really cool name. It suits him too.

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  19. Ugh, people suck. I’m so sorry ☹️

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    1. They can. But they can also be really awesome too. I'm focusing on that

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  20. I am so sorry you have these types of people in your life - whether they are only digital or also real life “friends”. This type of BS is why I’m more of a consumer than a creator online.

    Just know there are some of us out here that just really want success do those we follow and to hopefully be entertained by some stories along your journey.

    Try not to let the few criticisms ruin the rest. I know it’s easier said than done.

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    1. Thank you for the support! I'll keep posting my adventures regardless because I enjoy it and hopefully others do too

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